This may not come as a surprise to many of you, but a new study has found that men who participate in BDSM activities are more likely to be happy! Yay! Finally, some scientific evidence that shows that people who are into a little (or a lot of) rough play are not sad, depressed, individuals. I mean, we've always known that, but society as a whole has a warped idea about BDSM.
Dr. Richters says, "men into BDSM scored significantly better on a scale of psychological wellbeing than other men" and are likely to be happier as a result of their behavior. Well, duh. Do you think it might have something to do with the fact that they aren't denying their sexual needs and accept themselves for who they are?
The truth is, people who hold back their normal sexual desires, people who deny their fantasies, people who feel guilty for being sexual beings have a whole range of difficulties in other parts of their lives. If you are holding back in the bedroom, chances are you're holding back elsewhere as well. Maybe you're boss takes advantage of you but you don't say anything because it isn't appropriate. Or perhaps you are the child that always does what your parent expect despite the fact that it isn't what you want and you don't even live in their house anymore.
Denying our needs is harmful to our psychological balance. Letting our desires have room to play in a safe, adult, consensual manner helps us feel in control - even if it means giving up control. And in the long run, it makes us happier.
So, I'm thrilled to find out that this Australian study is going public with some honest sexual findings!